totally lost

Dear Randa,

I met this guy at college orientation, and we became good friends. When college started, we ate breakfast, lunch, dinner together, and went shopping together, and basically did everything together.

One time after a party, we hooked up. The day after, I told him that I had no feelings for him and that I had a boyfriend. A few days later, he told me he liked me, but I still told him that we need to stay as friends.

Later on, at another party, I got drunk and ended up hooking up with another guy. Then this friend of mine got really angry and stopped talking to me. He said he's going to stop talking to me until I learned how to control myself. He told me not to drink or get high. I tried telling him that this will not happen again, and that I was sorry for him, myself, my boyfriend, and others. But he continued ignoring me.

Now, whenever our friends are hanging out together and we see each other, he completely ignores me. It's a very awkward situation. And it's a problem not only because it hurts me, but because his friends are also my friends, but it seems like he's taking them away. Whenever I call them up to do anything, they say they're doing something with him. Whenever I call them up to eat, they say they are eating with him.

I want to be friends with him again. But I don't know if he will ever stop being mad at me. Is he worth it? Are all my friends worth it?

From, Totally Lost.

Dear Totally lost,

Im going to be harsh. College isnt about alcoholism and being high its about making friends doing well and making a life and a career for your self. You need to stop drinking or drink only to a point where you can control your self. If your losing friends over it then dont do it. He has a right to be mad at you. Think how you would feel the reason you gave him for not bieng able to go out with him is your boy friend and then you turned around and you hooked up with another guy. For your boyfriend, your best friend, and everyone you randomly hook up with do them a favor and control your self.

Love randa