confused

Dear Randa
My friend broke up with her boyfriend this May. They've been going out for a couple of months but she was absolutely in love with him. His reason to dump her was that he didn't love her anymore. She was depressed for a while but finally she's getting better. The problem is that he's trying to talk to her now but just as friends. But he seems really flirtacious even though he's not into her anymore. Like he would tell her not to cut her hair cause she's beautiful in long hair and stuff like that. This got her hopes up since she isnt completely over him. I can't really stop her from talking to him but she thinks he likes her again. I really don't think so. I don't know what to do - i told her several times but she won't listen. What should i do to help her get over him while them being friends?
From Confused

Dear Confused,
If he gave her a reason like "i dont love you anymore" after only a couple of months he probably never loved her to begin with. He was probably just using her and seeing that she still likes him plans to continue using her. It could also be a syndrome guys have where they dont let things go. They think that since they dated you once upon a time that gives them a kind of hold on you for the rest of your life. My advice to you is take it in stages. First have a talk with your friend tell her he probably never loved her. Tell her hes using her. Remind her how much he hurt her when he dumped her. Tell her to put up boundaries. Treat him as only a friend. Tell her nto to sell her self short that she doesnt have to get over him right away but make him prove himself to her first. Over a period of time most girls will get over their crushes. Your still young. This love wont last tell her not to loose dignity over someone who so easily dropped her. Its harsh. But your her friend and if she cant hear this from you shell probably never hear it from anyone else. She can handle it trust me. You might say i already tried all this and words wont get through to her. Well then theres really nothing you can do you gotta let her fall. And when she falls be there to pick her up. and dont pull the i told you so just be a good friend to her. Girls are fools when theyr in love and we all got to learn in our own ways how to prevent our selves from being hurt.
Randa Moustafa